Are Your Begging For His Attention?

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There you are desperately seeking for his/her attention. He/she knows very well that you won't quit because of your personal reasons that i deem them not ethical to mention. You are  a slave for your own decisions. But Why?
Everlyne Nyanchoka gives an account of her  slavery while he was in a relationship with Joseph Okaya. Okaya is a student in Moi University Main Campus Eldoret. He is the 'prince of grooming' in the university as students refer him. Yes, he is ever smart. He is always in his suit from Sunday to  Friday. His color blending talent adds him additional attractive feature. When in his bow-tie, one can never mistake him for an hustler.It his because of his abject love for gorgeous dressing and celebrity nature that Joseph was nicknamed O.K.
It was on one of the most treasured campus occasion "Freshaas nite" when Everlyne Met O.K. Both had attended the occasion on the basis of being inculcated in the Campus. "I was convinced with my friends to accompany them to the Student Centre that night. I wore my blue dress which i was told was the best for such occasion. And just before we entered the auditorium, we met this man and he was quick to greet us. He was in royal Blue suit, white shirt and Blue bow-tie" Everlyne narrates.
According to her, everything started there. O.K accompanied the 'friends' later to their room in hostel J. Everlyne's heart grew fonder every knew day with his campus lover.  Days became weeks, weeks became months, but months never came to be years.
six months later, "exposure" took most of O.K. By then he knew the university well. He was becoming a celebrity. He was making technical appearances whenever he felt he should see Everlyne. He was already finding his way out of Everlyne's life. It even reached a point where he told her to quit and find herself another man.

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Everlyne was depressed. " Death was my constant companion,  I never attended lectures for nearly the whole of second semester" She notes. She says she even made a point to meet with her mentor but still it was a hell to face the reality.
Everlyne's story reminded of some things we do in a relationship that jeopardizes future. Imagine a scenario like this;  you sleep while unhappy because your boyfriend quarreled with you that you don't call him yet he calls you only at night; You fear mingling with your friends because he always think they are your 'other' boyfriends; you sometimes don't go for lecture because he wants to be with you when he is not busy; you go to his church just to please him and NOT God; and perhaps you spend sleepless nights thinking of how he talks to you.
Do you think such character will marry you?
I'm told your partner should be your number one friend. He should never be your boss. The best marriages are made by friends, not masters and subjects. Yes he is the head of the family by default. No one disputes that.

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O.K was right because he meet Everlyne when she was desperately in need of love. He was also being stupid for awakening love in a woman with not intention to love.
Everlyne was also being ridiculous for building castle in the air. Begging for his attention should never be your alternative. Let him beg for yours. After all, he is just a boyfriend, not your husband. If his time has expired let him go for new things to happen in your life. 

#TakeCareGirls.